"Parents who play computer games with their children can share in a positive relationship-building experience," says Care for the Family.

The advice comes as a survey carried out by the charity shows that 92 per cent of parents are concerned over computer game content and 83 per cent of parents have refused to buy computer games for their children.

The survey taken as part of National Family Week also showed that negative effects of computer gaming such as length of time playing - 28 hours a week for some children, frustration, arguments, inability to sleep, desensitisation and addiction were real problems for many parents. Peer pressure for the next 'must have game' also causes significant tension in many households.

However, 69.5 per cent of the 1,477 parents who completed the survey felt that one of the most positive benefits of playing computer games with their children was that they spent time together as a family. Others commented that they cancelled the generation gap and gave a rare opportunity for one-to-one time with their children.

Katharine Hill, Head of Family Life at Care for the Family says: "Whether we like it or not, the age of technology means that computer games are here to stay. Parents do need to set boundaries for their children when playing console games, but they can also act positively and take some time out to play the games with their children. This way they are more likely to get a positive response when suggesting homework, a bike ride or other family activity."

Care for the Family has also written an information sheet called Computer games: how to help your kids play safely which covers 5 Top Tips for parents, jargon busting, advice on age ratings and where to go for further help.

As part of National Family Week, Care for the Family has also launched a 'Memorable Moments' competition asking families to send in their traditions and activities which help them build a stronger and closer family. Walks, cake making, film nights, pyjama days, regular family meals together, camping and family meetings in the shed are just some of the ideas to help families build stronger bonds.

"Time together as family is crucial. It forms the foundation for good strong relationships, opens up communication and will build memories that last a lifetime" says Hill. "And even playing computer games with your children can be part of that. One family wrote and told us they have a Wii night - playing games and then they watch a DVD. It shows how technology can bring families closer together, if families are willing to use it!"



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Computer games: how to help your kids play safely is available for free at www.careforthefamily.org.uk/supportnet